Especially in a world where infinite data and resources exist with one click, it is normal to feel overwhelmed with external advice, ideas, and solutions; we listen to podcasts, read articles and self-help books, turn on an inspirational speech, look to friends and family… the list goes on! And then what happens? Information overwhelm might include:
- Holding excessive information about products or solutions – and as they both have benefits and downfalls, it is no longer know which option is better.
- Analysis paralysis; failing to make a decision because there will always be more research to consider.
- Choosing the favored option of the majority, even when your gut disagrees.
- Standing in the deodorant isle at target for 20 minutes because you’ve sifted through every brand, price, and smell, but still can’t decide between Dove Cool Essentials and Degree Shower Clean.
External seeking is a resourceful practice when used in tandem with personal awareness. External seeking provides new perspectives to consider, offers a gentle push toward your full life experience, acts as motivation and encouragement – especially when you find solidarity among like-minded individuals, boosts self-confidence as you realize why you disagree with opposing viewpoints, and guides your direction with research-backed concepts, practices, and findings.
However, I notice a trend in coaching clients (and myself) to persist with external seeking as if this is the only place we may find information of value. What this often leads to is no solution at all. Why? Because, as stated earlier, the data and resources available to us are infinite; we could search forever and still feel unfulfilled. Because no external source – even the most rigorous research findings – knows for certain what is best for us.
Please let me clarify: I am not encouraging us to abandon external seeking all together. I am extremely grateful for the knowledge I gained throughout my various modes of education – including a graduate degree absolutely founded by research thought, methodology, concepts, and practices. Rather, I prompt us to consider the importance of personal reflection in addition to external seeking – and write to you about this importance because I believe it is not practiced as frequently.
As I conclude this message, I invite you to ask yourself what wisdom you already have. Before, during, and after your external research, remember to check in with yourself: What resonates with me? What is my gut telling me? What would I like to try? How does this apply to my unique circumstance? What is my best guess?
Remember: this is YOUR full, authentic life. Trust your alignment.
Would you like support in this process? Coaching is a fantastic tool to foster personal reflection, growth, exploration, and alignment. Reach out to me via comment, direct message, or at yesandbymarin.com
